I’ll never forget the first job I turned down. It was the summer of 2004, and it was for a lifeguard position at a local beach—a summer dream job for a high school student who had been working at Tim Hortons. I was so excited when they called me and offered me the position. But the thing about summer jobs is that you kind of have to work the whole summer. Taking a two-week vacation in the middle of the summer usually doesn’t fly, as I learned.

So I had a choice. I could accept the offer for my first lifeguard job, for which I worked hours to achieve the proper certificates, or go on a trip across Western Canada with my dad. My father had been planning this vacation for months—probably years, if I’m being honest—but he still gave me the option to cancel the trip and take the job.

In the end, I decided to turn down the job and go on the trip with my dad. There would be other jobs, and there were, but there may not have been another opportunity quite like this. We drove the Trans Canada Highway across the western provinces, camped in too many parks to name, a highlight being Jasper National Park (where I was petrified we were going to be attacked in the night by cougar—spoiler alert, we weren’t), went on a horseback ride where we tracked Grizzly bears, and stayed in the smallest campground made on earth in Tofino.

It was definitely a trip to remember, and not one I regret. Working as a lifeguard at a beach would have also been a rewarding experience. But I had to make a choice, and at that time in my life, going on a trip with my dad was a priority for me.

Not all priorities in life mean saying no to other opportunities. There are lots of situations where you can, and many people do try to juggle multiple priorities. But eventually, at some point, whether it’s conflicting priorities (like in the case with my summer lifeguard job), too many priorities, or a change in belief or values, there will come a time when you have to accept that certain goals are no longer serving you.

As a writer, I often hear from my writing friends about how they struggle to balance their work priorities. From marketing, newsletters, website design, and social media, to deciding which contests and publishers to submit to, and even just deciding which story idea to work on next, it can be overwhelming to know where to start or if you are ever getting ahead. But I’m sure that’s not just a writer problem. In this fast-paced world, it seems impossible to keep “on the pulse.” I think everyone is struggling to decide what they can and want to fit into their 24-hour schedule.

Are you a fan of to-do lists? I am, but sometimes they stress me out more than they help keep me organized.

Think of your to-do list as a garden. Over time, weeds grow, old plants die back, and things that once seemed important now take up valuable space. The same is true for your to-do tasks. That item that’s been lingering for months, gathering digital dust? It’s likely contributing to your overwhelm and stress.

Here are a few tips that I try when I feel like I have conflicting priorities, or am overwhelmed with the number of projects on my to-do list:

Ruthlessly Rewrite Your To-do List!

• Remove anything that has been on your to-do for months or that is no longer important. Be honest with yourself and don’t be afraid to erase it. Liberating that mental space is incredibly freeing.
• If the item has been on there for months, but you feel it’s still important. Evaluate why you haven’t completed it. Is it too big of a step? Consider breaking it into a smaller component. Instead of “revamp my website,” maybe start with, “update the Home Page on my website.”

Re-evaluate Your Priorities

With a cleaner, more manageable to-do list, another crucial step is to ensure you are working on the right things. Conflicting priorities often arise when you haven’t clearly defined what truly matters most right now.

• Take a moment to step back and ask yourself:
  • What are my overarching goals? What am I trying to achieve in the short, medium, and long term?
  • Which of these tasks directly contributes to those goals? Not all tasks are created equal. Some will have a far greater impact than others.
  • What are the most urgent items? Are there any deadlines looming or time-sensitive tasks that need immediate attention?
  • What will give me the biggest win right now? Sometimes, tackling a smaller task that yields a quick positive result can boost morale and motivation to tackle bigger things later.
  • Don’t just blindly work through your list. Be intentional about where you invest your time and energy.

Tackling 3 Tasks a Day

• The “Daily Big Three” concept has really helped me power through my to-do lists without making them feel overwhelming.
• Each day, make sure to pick 1-2 shorter tasks (think simple like sending an e-mail or making an important phone call) and one bigger task to even out the workload!

80-20 Rule for Freelancers

• As a freelancer, priorities are a constant struggle. However, as a general rule of thumb, 80% of your income is usually generated through 20% of your customers (but this philosophy, also called the Pareto principle, doesn’t just apply to freelancing). This means you have tons of customers (or projects) that barely bring in any revenue.
• So, as a freelancer, once you find your niche, it’s important to start focusing your efforts and prioritize the areas that are really paying off. But don’t completely give up your other projects, especially if they are passions for you!

Going With Your Gut

Sometimes, I just go with my gut and do what I feel like working on in that moment, and that’s okay, too (unless you have looming deadlines, of course). Guaranteed if you want to do the task, and enjoy doing it, you are going to be more successful.

Like right now, I am supposed to be working on my novel, but randomly, I decided to write this blog post, which I’ve been putting off for way too long. And as a writer or creative, or just someone who wants to feel satisfaction from the task they are completing, sometimes going with the flow is the best way to go.

Take Back Your Time and Sanity

Feeling overwhelmed by conflicting priorities and endless to-do lists is a common struggle, but it doesn’t have to be your default state. By implementing these strategies, decluttering your list, breaking down large tasks, re-evaluating your priorities, and embracing the power of the “Daily Big Three,” and the 80-20 rule, you can begin to conquer the chaos, regain control of your time, and move forward with a greater sense of clarity and accomplishment.

Start small, be consistent, and you’ll be amazed at the difference these simple shifts can make in your productivity and overall well-being. You’ve got this!

Now, I’d love to hear from you! How do you decide which project to tackle next?